Happy

HAPPY

 

People always say you smile ALL the time...I do smile all the time...But why not?

I have God in my life, great health, great family, great friends, great job, and I made all A's this semester, lol...

 

Life is Great

 

My only wish is to bless others...

 

Life is too short to be sad, miserable and etc, people make mistakes, I make mistakes and will make more but I'm growing and learning...

 

This holiday think of someone else and make them happy...

 

Do something that others may not see or know about, donate to an organization or just give someone a phone call to say I love you...

 

Love makes the world go around...

 

So tell people you love them while they are still living...

 

I love everyone and I hope you love me...

 

Have a Merry Chirstmas and see you on the 29th!

 

 

Improper LOVE

 

 

I don't believe that some people just don't know how to love...I believe that everyone knows how to love but may love differently than others...It just may not be proper for you..

 

Love...

What a beautiful word, 4 letters that means so much...

Love is beautiful. Love is powerful..Love is positive...

but Love is defined differently depending on who you ask...

To me, the definition of love is God.

In order to love me, you must first love HIM, your family, then me.

 

No one will ever love you as much as God loves us...Period. His love is unconditionally...No matter how much you change...his love never fails us.

 

I have learned that before falling in love with someone, I have to see how they love their family, their pets, their children, or anything or anyone that is important to them..

 

I have dated some many mothers and by observing how they love their children shows me how they will love me.

If she is a "improper"mother to her own children then that's how she will love you...

 

If she is selfish and only thinks of herself, then damn it, she will never be able to love you as you want to be loved...bc the only person she loves is herself...

 

We all want love...

But we all look at love differently...

What feels like love to us may not feel like love to others...

But be aware of patters...look for a partner who is consistent...has a good relationship with her children, family and friends...

 

If she disowns her own family and children...then how will she be able to love you?

 

She won't be...

 

Love is beautiful but find it with someone who knows how to love you properly...not badly.

Her way of loving may not be proper for you but for someone else...

You can find this out in the beginning stages of dating...Just don't deny what you see or feel...as I do often...

 

I start thinking maybe she doesn't love them but she can love me...Just to find out later, that I was wrong...her idea of loving someone is  improper for me...Her idea of loving someone is improper maybe bc that is how she was taught to love...who knows...but what I do know is that patterns never fail you.

 

 

 

 

Answer to our prayers.....

 

 

I pray a lot, one of my wishes is to have a partner who will pray with me..But in time, lol..

Now back to the topic...

 

I pray a lot for my family, friends, neighbors, and co workers-the list goes on...

 

As I was listening to the new J. Cole's cd "2014 Forest Hills Drive" and there is this one song called, "No Role Modelz."

 

The reason this song hits home is because I always feel that when I don't accomplish something,

 it was something I did wrong...

 

And I have prayed so many times since my breakup that maybe I could have done something different to save the relationship or maybe I could have been more available so that she wouldn't have cheated...etc etc etc

 

But this song answered my prayers, J Cole says that you can't save a woman, because she doesn't want to be saved...

 

It spoke volumes, bc I don't have the power to change someone's ways, only they can do that...

 

A heavy burden was lifted off my chest...

 

Now I can move on in peace knowing that I did nothing wrong...

 

So sometimes step out of your ordinary and try something different..It was a coworker who inspired me to buy J Cole's cd because I usually don't listen to him. But I am so glad that I did, bc it changed my perspective...

 

So when you pray just know that God answers your prayers in MANY ways...But you have to be open to hear it.

 

Have a good one :)

New Chapter

 

 

Life is good, in fact life is GREAT...We are giving so many chances to change our lives...When a breakup happens, it leaves you asking, "So what now?" In a relationship, you are living day to day making sure that both of you are okay, making sure that you fulfill your partners needs and etc...Well now, it's just YOU...so everything changes, your decisions only affect you...it no longer affects your ex.

 

Sounds good right...but before you start thinking just about YOU...make sure you leave your relationship in good GRACE..that you had closure and wish your partner the best of luck in life...Stop all contact and leave in good peace...Rather they cheated, lied, or was disloyal such as my ex...She did all of these things...and I had the choice to hate her but I choose to forgive her and move on...I made the choice to move on because I know that deserve so much more in life...

 

I prayed about it first and God answered my question...it wasn't the answer that I wanted...but in time, I realized I was in the wrong relationship with the wrong woman...

 

New chapter is about dedicating yourself to YOU again...Loving all of you...Meeting new people...And making all of your dreams come true...

 

I'm ready for my new chapter...I know that I have missed out on so much being dedicated and faithful to one person, but now I can just focus and worry about me...

 

So this is the best part of life...Moving on to the NEW CHAPTER...

 

God has so much planned for me...I can feel it.

Fresh Out Of A BreakUp

Fresh Out Of A BreakUP

Sorry for the wait, lol...Busy trying to make these A's for the Fall semester...But it's over now and I accomplished my goal! I got A's in both classes....still makes me smile.

But let's talk...Fresh out of a breakup...I am single! So you know with breakups, you always feel sad, disappointed, and a complete waste of time...that's how I feel. I'm not sad about the breakup, I'm sad because I failed myself...i jumped into a relationship with someone that I barely knew. So when the real person came out, I had no interest in her...She said all the good things and made me feel that she was the love of my life...but in reality, she wasn't. I don't even blame her, I blame myself...I saw all the red signs in the first month of the relationship and I still stayed with her...hoping she would change...I even lowered my standards just so that I could still have her....I blame myself...However, I learned from this situation and I hope some of you learn from my mistake....

The Things I learned....

1. Get to know her first, learn her flaws and see her weakness first....

2. Don't develop feelings for her until you are sure she is who she say she is....

3. Don't ever lower you standards...they are your standards and if someone loves you enough they will make an effort to meet them.

4. Don't ignore red signs just because you are lonely and just want to be with someone...

5. Always keep God first, if she doesn't bring you closer to God then she not the one....

6. Never stop working on your goals for you...such as education, career, financial stability

7. Never be afraid to let go...you meet people everyday and you never know who is waiting to meet you. 

I hope you enjoyed this :)